The system is so broken. I remember the first time my ex came to visit my children. My daughter was five and she crawled into a kitchen cabinet to hide. Then she clung to my legs and I had to hand her over. Subscribing to follow your story.
It will be interesting how he navigates parenting a second time around. I have seen many different scenarios. I am sure you have thought about all of them as well. I bet you dream of escaping to London. I hope this dream becomes a reality for you and your son. I don't want to give you false hope. He may lose interest in this vendetta he has against you and if it continues his girlfriend will be left wondering: why?
He has a very different dynamic with his new gf. She is much younger, financially dependent on him, she has close family nearby, he is her boss at work. I think he was always struggling to exert control over me and feeling emasculated. This relationship gives him the control and larger dick he always wanted. But also he has voluntarily settled and accepted he has to pay rent and provide a home. He refused to accept that with me. But abusers don’t change. I do think he is in a situation which feeds into his patriarchal desire for control but I wonder what happens when she wants to leave him with her kid. That’s the true test. I hope she runs.
The system is so broken. I remember the first time my ex came to visit my children. My daughter was five and she crawled into a kitchen cabinet to hide. Then she clung to my legs and I had to hand her over. Subscribing to follow your story.
It will be interesting how he navigates parenting a second time around. I have seen many different scenarios. I am sure you have thought about all of them as well. I bet you dream of escaping to London. I hope this dream becomes a reality for you and your son. I don't want to give you false hope. He may lose interest in this vendetta he has against you and if it continues his girlfriend will be left wondering: why?
He has a very different dynamic with his new gf. She is much younger, financially dependent on him, she has close family nearby, he is her boss at work. I think he was always struggling to exert control over me and feeling emasculated. This relationship gives him the control and larger dick he always wanted. But also he has voluntarily settled and accepted he has to pay rent and provide a home. He refused to accept that with me. But abusers don’t change. I do think he is in a situation which feeds into his patriarchal desire for control but I wonder what happens when she wants to leave him with her kid. That’s the true test. I hope she runs.
I relate. So much. For whatever it’s worth. ❤️
I really admire you! Thank you for saying this ❤️